Loss

What is it about loss? Whether its a loss of a friend or loved one, loss of love, home, or property all is loss. I suggest it may be the reminder of how impermanent everything and everyone is. The realization or reminder that all is temporary. It may be the reminder of our mortality. Loss can be the reminder that we are all here for a brief time and none of us know how brief it may be. No one likes ambiguity and loss and these serve as a remembrance of our existence of uncertainty. As sad, depressing, and unmotivating these feelings of having no control over our mortality may be there is an alternative. When loss occurs it is normal to experience feelings of remorse and sadness, but we have a choice on how we reconcile with these concerns. Choosing to be angry and allowing these feelings to remain near the surface is unhealthy and unwise. We can have control. We can chose how we deal and reconcile with these very natural feelings. Always take time to mourn. Mourning over a loss is necessary in order to attempt to move on in our lives no matter how difficult this may seem. Never mourn too long because living in the past is not productive for our futures. As a final stage of the mourning process we must take time to find the productive, constructive or positive aspects of any loss. This may be supremely difficult in certain circumstances, but this step is crucial. We must understand that any loss no matter how wounding can be found to have positive aspects. It can be the fact that loss is a pathway for others to find enlightenment through whatever form of religious dogma you follow. Or, the satisfaction of knowing that we always have what we need when we need it. If we have lost something then it is the will of the almighty. Karma and destiny shall dictate when you have what you need. Loss is one of the hardest emotions to deal with, but we all have the strength to mourn our loss and gain even the smallest fraction of wisdom. With the further attainment of wisdom we become better and stronger people. Tomorrow is a new day and another chance to start over and make a difference.